Award-winning author Sloane Crosley recently divulged that she’s not the only well-known member of her family. Her first cousin, Johnny Seeman — yes, that’s his real name — is revered as one of the greatest performers of the adult film industry in the 1970s and ‘80s. But he didn’t get into porn for the sex — he got in it to find love. Crosby recently caught up with Seeman to find out what she, and the rest of us, can learn from someone with prolific and unique experiences with human intimacy.
“I was always scheming about how to make one of these women my girlfriend. I know it’s not the standard reason people do this,” Seeman told Crosby. “A lot of people I knew were aspiring actors or models…but I was looking for a relationship.”
Over time, though, Seeman said things didn’t work out. Women had boyfriends outside of work. One was even a Hell’s Angel. “It wasn’t like that,” he said, admitting that he’s never had a relationship longer than three months in his life — and after a certain point, he just stopped trying.
“You don’t just stop being who you are when you reach a certain age. You know that, right? You don’t magically outgrow yourself. The life you’re living now is your actual life, the habits you have now are your actual habits. I hope I’ve evolved—but I’m not so sure,” Seeman said. “But I can tell you that if you’re setting things up, so they never work out by picking the wrong partners and you know you’re doing it…just stop it.”
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