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If you have a Netflix subscription, there’s a very good chance curiosity got the best of you and you watched an episode or eight of How to Build a Sex Room.
The 2022 original series from the streaming platform is a spicy twist on the classic home renovation show, wherein interior designer Melanie Rose helps multiple couples transform spaces in their homes into NSFW rooms reflective of their fantasies and fetishes.
Now you might be wondering, what’s the purpose of transforming your guest bedroom into something straight out of 50 Shades of Gray? Well, there are actually a few benefits of building a dedicated space where you can live out all your kinky fantasies, according to Natasha Ivanovic, an Intimacy Expert at Kiiroo, the award-winning interactive sex toy company.
A dedicated sex room in your home can provide a space with more privacy than your own bedroom, instantly set the mood for sex in a way your sleeping space wouldn’t, or be a safe space for exploration of sexual fantasies,” Ivanovic explains, adding that whatever you want your sex room to be is up to you.
“It can be a noir BDSM den, a white room with a sex swing in the middle, or a spicy Moulin Rouge-themed space.”
Ideally, you’d want a sizeable area to hang your sex chairs and store your flogging stations, but not everyone has that kind of real estate. Luckily, according to Ivanovic, any room can be a sex room if you put your mind to it.
“Depending on what your living situation is, you may want to pick your sex room based on privacy. Any size room can be utilized as a sex room as long as you and your partner feel comfortable in it,” she adds. That walk-in closet? Sex room. Your kitchen cupboard? Sex room. The shed out back? Sex shed.
Once you decide on a space, Ivanovic recommends filling your room with kinky objects that’ll take your sexual experiences to the next level.
“Kinky objects can be a ceiling mirror, a bondage kit, vibrators, rope, floggers, butt plugs, or a sex swing. It’s your sex room, so fill it up with your favorite kinky things,” she says, noting, however, when using bondage and other kinkier objects, make sure you’re doing so in a way both partners are comfortable with.”Intimacy isn’t only about toys, either. Texture plays a big role in pleasure. So consider adding satin sheets, pillowcases, a fur rug or a leather loveseat to your room. The different textures will awaken your senses,” Ivanovic adds.
Now, the fun begins (well the fun before the real fun begins.) It’s time to outfit your sex chamber. Below, we’ve rounded up some essentials you need to build the kinkiest sex room of your dreams.
Liberator Wedge & Ramp Sex Positioning Pillow Combo
Explore new positions and contortions with this moisture-resistant, plush wedge/ramp duo.
Unbound Nipple & Clit Clamp
This glamorous gold-plated, multiple-chain nipple and clit clamp is a luxe accessory in and outside the sex room.
Bondage Boutique Advanced Extra Long Suede Flogger
Made of high-grade suede, this flogger is a luxe bondage essential designed to thrill your nerve-endings.
Unbound Tether
The perfect bondage accessory for those new to restraint play. This best-selling tape, also from Unbound, only sticks to itself, so you don’t have to worry about getting your skin or hair caught in a sticky, unsexy situation.
Pure Bedding Satin Sheets Queen
While we’d usually recommend splurging on some high-quality satin sheets, we know what’s happening on them. You can still incorporate some texture into your sex room with this affordable option, you won’t mind ruining.
Lelo Flickering Touch Massage Candle
While the fragrance is subtle, this massage candle from Lelo produces a silky wax that feels sensual and smooth on the skin.
Liberator Kama Sutra Chaise Lounge
Made from high-density foam, this lounge chair will help you discover dozens of new angles, movements and positions. Not to mention aesthetically speaking, it looks pretty cool.
Sportsheets Sex Swing Door Jam Kit
Don’t have high enough ceilings, strong beams, or, frankly, the energy to install a sex swing in your room? This swing, which conveniently hangs over the door, is a solid alternative.
Crave ID Cuffs
Crafted from genuine black leather and featuring an adjustable stainless steel chain, these cuffs from Crave will help you add some sophisticated submission to your proceedings.
Male Power Shoulder Harness with C-Ring Waist Band Black
Bondage is a two-way street, and it’s about time you cop some tantalizing gear for yourself. This stretchy but form-fitting harness and belt includes O-rings and a cock ring to maximize pleasure and can be easily attached to other bondage accessories.
The Cowgirl Premium Remote and App-Controlled Riding Sex Machine
You know, for your western-themed sex room.
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