Everything You Need to Build the Kinkiest Sex Room of Your Dreams
Plus a expert explains how to transform your space into one
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If you have a Netflix subscription, there’s a very good chance curiosity got the best of you and you watched an episode or eight of How to Build a Sex Room.
The newish original series from the streaming platform is a spicy twist on the classic home renovation show, wherein interior designer Melanie Rose helps multiple couples transform spaces in their homes into NSFW rooms reflective of their fantasies and fetishes.
Now you might be wondering, what’s the purpose of transforming your guest bedroom into something straight out of 50 Shades of Gray? Well, there are actually a few benefits of building a dedicated space where you can live out all your kinky fantasies, according to Natasha Ivanovic, an Intimacy Expert at Kiiroo, the award-winning interactive sex toy company.
A dedicated sex room in your home can provide a space with more privacy than your own bedroom, instantly set the mood for sex in a way your sleeping space wouldn’t, or be a safe space for exploration of sexual fantasies,” Ivanovic explains, adding that whatever you want your sex room to be is up to you.
“It can be a noir BDSM den, a white room with a sex swing in the middle, or a spicy Moulin Rouge-themed space.”
Ideally, you’d want a sizeable area to hang your sex chairs and store your flogging stations, but not everyone has that kind of real estate. Luckily, according to Ivanovic, any room can be a sex room if you put your mind to it.
“Depending on what your living situation is, you may want to pick your sex room based on privacy. Any size room can be utilized as a sex room as long as you and your partner feel comfortable in it,” she adds. That walk-in closet? Sex room. Your kitchen cupboard? Sex room. The shed out back? Sex shed.
Once you decide on a space, Ivanovic recommends filling your room with kinky objects that’ll take your sexual experiences to the next level.
“Kinky objects can be a ceiling mirror, a bondage kit, vibrators, rope, floggers, butt plugs, or a sex swing. It’s your sex room, so fill it up with your favorite kinky things,” she says, noting, however, when using bondage and other kinkier objects, make sure you’re doing so in a way both partners are comfortable with.”Intimacy isn’t only about toys, either. Texture plays a big role in pleasure. So consider adding satin sheets, pillowcases, a fur rug or a leather loveseat to your room. The different textures will awaken your senses,” Ivanovic adds.
Now, the fun begins (well the fun before the real fun begins.) It’s time to outfit your sex chamber. Below, we’ve rounded up some essentials you need to build the kinkiest sex room of your dreams.
Explore new positions and contortions with this moisture-resistant, plush wedge/ramp duo.
This glamorous gold-plated, multiple-chain nipple and clit clamp is a luxe accessory in and outside the sex room.
An affordable crop for horses that’s been co-opted by humans.
A comfortable, hammock-style sex swing to help elevate pleasure.
Made of high-grade suede, this flogger is a luxe bondage essential designed to thrill your nerve-endings.
The perfect bondage accessory for those new to restraint play. This best-selling tape from the female-founded brand only sticks to itself, so you don’t have to worry about getting your skin or hair caught in a sticky, unsexy situation.
While we’d usually recommend splurging on some high-quality satin sheets from Boll & Branch or somewhere, we know what’s happenin’ on them. You can still incorporate some texture into your sex room with this affordable option, you won’t mind ruining.
While the fragrance is subtle, this massage candle from Lelo produces a silky wax that feels sensual and smooth on the skin.
Made from high-density foam, this lounge chair will help you discover dozens of new angles, movements and positions. Not to mention aesthetically speaking, it looks pretty cool.
Don’t have high enough ceilings, strong beams or, frankly, the energy to install a sex swing in your room? This swing, which conveniently hangs over the door, is a solid alternative.
Is it really a sex room without a splashy fur rug?
Another BDSM essential suitable for beginners, these flexible handcuffs make bondage rather simple. Made from from strong yet stretchy body-safe silicone, these cuffs make restraint play intuitive, and time-efficient.
Two words: mood lighting.
Sexy lingerie shouldn’t be reserved for the ladies! This stretchy, seductive hardness boasts O-rings and 2 inch cock ring for heightened sensations and longer-lasting fun.
You know, for your western-themed sex room.
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