Sex & Dating | March 31, 2021 12:05 pm

The 9 Best Arousal Gels, Sprays and Serums For You, Your Partner and Everyone!

Plus what the hell do they do?

The 9 Best Arousal Gels, Sprays and Serums For You, Your Partner and Everyone!
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There is no magic cure-all for bad, boring sex. And any attempt at fixing it has to start with honest, open communication between yourself and the person you’re having sex with (I know, boring!). But there are some products that will help — or just enhance it if you’re already happy with the sex you’re having. Vibrators and other sex toys are highly recommended solutions, but if you’re looking to turn it up even a few more notches, allow me to introduce you to the world of arousal gels, sprays and serums — all designed to help you and your partner experience heightened pleasurable sensations.

“As much as I’d love to say that our body and mind were always on the same page, that isn’t always the case, unfortunately. There are times when we want to believe that our body is hungry for sex, but due to a million other factors, our mind isn’t letting us fully relax to become aroused enough during foreplay,” explains Tatyannah King, a sex blogger and graduate student at the Widener University Center for Human Sexuality Studies. “That’s when arousal gels and sprays may come in handy because they assist us with reaching the excitation phase of sexual desire.”

One 2008 study examined how arousal gels affected 500 sexually active heterosexual women between the ages of 18 and 59, with most participants reporting that using arousal gel met or exceeded expectations, increased sensitivity in their genital area and made their intimate experience better, notes King. And while arousal products have been around at least since 2008, they seem to be having a moment in the current sexual wellness market, with modern sex brands like Dame and Cake releasing their own versions of arousal gels each designed for different genitals.

So what do you need to know before adding a new stimulating oil, spray or gel to your sex-routine? First, know arousal products are not the same as a personal lubricant, though they can increase lubrication. Personal lubricant is commonly a water-based product (also silicone-based, oil-based, or a hybrid form) that mimics the natural lubrication of the body that happens during sex. “Arousal oils and gels are like an aphrodisiac to your skin that helps get you in the mood. Arousal gels work by increasing blood flow to the genital tissue, which can lead to enhanced sexual arousal, lubrication, and orgasm,” says King.

You should also be on the lookout for products that include ingredients like glycerin, parabens, petroleum jelly, benzocaine, menthol, or propylene glycol. While King notes these ingredients aren’t harmful, they might just have irritating side effects like burning or itching. And as with any serum, oil or cream you’re about to put on your body, King recommends doing a quick skin test by massaging a few drops into your inner wrist before putting it elsewhere. “If your skin starts to form a rash or has an adverse reaction to the product, then don’t use that lube. Still, I wouldn’t necessarily assume that if your external skin doesn’t have a bad reaction to the product then that automatically means you won’t have a reaction internally, but the quick skin test on your wrist is at least a good place to start,” she adds.

Most importantly, be sure to check if a product is safe to use with condoms. “If the product is oil-based then it can potentially break down the material of a latex condom (and silicone sex toys, as well), so make sure to check the ingredients before use,” says King.

So to start you on your journey to better sex, below are nine arousal gels, sprays and serums for you, your partner and everyone else involved.


Foria Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD

Foria offers a collection of 100% plant-based and organic hemp products for intimacy and everyday wellbeing. The Awaken Arousal Oil is the brand’s best-seller — a topical made to enhance pleasure and help ease discomfort especially for those with endometriosis, vaginismus and other pelvic and genital pain conditions. 


Cake Stim for Him

Sexual wellness brand Cake has branched out from its line of lubes with the latest launch of stim for him, an arousal gel for your solo endeavors. The gel produces an intense tingling sensation during men’s solo play, switching between a cooling and warming feeling for maximum pleasure. The herbal formula includes natural extracts and ingredients like Kwao Krua Dang, caffeine and niacin for a unique, stimulating sensation that’ll even help your solo sessions last longer.

Dame Arousal Serum

The female-founded wellness brand’s recently launched Arousal Serum is designed to generate a warm, tingling sensation for those with vulvas to enhance and heighten clitoral stimulation. The 100% natural, water-based formula utilizes interesting ingredients like ginger, peppermint and cinnamon.


Promescent Climax Control Spray

This best-selling “Delay Spray” from Promescent is clinically proven to do just that. The lidocaine-based spray helps penis-owners last longer in bed through the brand’s patented fast-absorption technology that doesn’t leave an overall numbing feeling or transfer to your partner.


Promescent Clitoral Arousal Gel

Promescent also offers a paraben- and hormone-free arousal gel designed to be massaged onto sensitive areas like the clitoris, around the clitoral hood and labia to stimulate and intensify. Within five minutes of application, this clitoral arousal gel will produce a buzzing sensation with gentle warming effects.


Trojan Arouses & Intensifies

Trojan’s Arouses & Intensifies is a lubricant/arousal gel combo. So yes, you can use it like a personal lubricant, it’s safe to use with latex condoms and produces an array of warming, heating, cooling and tingling sensations for both you and your partner.


CBD Arousal Spray by Playboy

Playboy has developed a CBD arousal spray for those with vulvas. It’s lightly vanilla-scented, fast-absorbing and features a mix of Playboy’s specialty broad-spectrum phytocannabinoid-rich hemp CBD oil, horny goat weed and kava root to create warming and exciting pleasurable sensations.

Voilà Intimate Mood Oil

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Developed by board-certified OB-GYN Dr. Karen Patrusky, this “mood oil” includes natural ingredients like coconut oil and peppermint for those looking for a more organic, invigorating sexual experience. And while the brand’s tagline promises to “satisfy your feminine spirit,” this arousal oil will excite your spirit as well.


Bad Day Killer Clitoral Balm

Along with Unbound’s OMG Spot Serum, King recommends this clitoral balm to help heighten the sensitivity of the clitoris. Thanks to a coconut and almond oil base, this smooth balm glides on easy to boost blood flow and create a warming effect.