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If you have a Netflix subscription, there’s a very good chance curiosity got the best of you and you watched an episode or eight of How to Build a Sex Room.
The 2022 original series from the streaming platform is a spicy twist on the classic home renovation show, wherein interior designer Melanie Rose helps multiple couples transform spaces in their homes into NSFW rooms reflective of their fantasies and fetishes.
Now you might be wondering, what’s the purpose of transforming your guest bedroom into something straight out of 50 Shades of Grey? Well, there are actually a few benefits of building a dedicated space where you can live out all your kinky fantasies, according to Natasha Ivanovic, an Intimacy Expert at Kiiroo, the award-winning interactive sex toy company.
“A dedicated sex room in your home can provide a space with more privacy than your own bedroom, instantly set the mood for sex in a way your sleeping space wouldn’t or be a safe space for exploration of sexual fantasies,” Ivanovic explains, adding that whatever you want your sex room to be is up to you.
“It can be a noir BDSM den, a white room with a sex swing in the middle, or a spicy Moulin Rouge-themed space,” she suggests.
Ideally, you’d want a sizeable area to hang your sex chairs and store your flogging stations, but not everyone has that kind of real estate. Luckily, according to Ivanovic, any room can be a sex room if you put your mind to it.
“Depending on what your living situation is, you may want to pick your sex room based on privacy. Any size room can be utilized as a sex room as long as you and your partner feel comfortable in it,” she adds. That walk-in closet? Sex room. Your kitchen cupboard? Sex room. The shed out back? Sex shed.
Once you decide on a space, Ivanovic recommends filling your room with kinky objects that’ll take your sexual experiences to the next level.
“Kinky objects can be a ceiling mirror, a bondage kit, vibrators, rope, floggers, butt plugs or a sex swing. It’s your sex room, so fill it up with your favorite kinky things,” she says, noting, however, that when using bondage and other kinkier objects, you should make sure you’re doing so in a way both partners are comfortable with. “Intimacy isn’t only about toys, either. Texture plays a big role in pleasure. So consider adding satin sheets, pillowcases, a fur rug or a leather loveseat to your room. The different textures will awaken your senses,” Ivanovic adds.
Now, the fun begins (well, the fun before the real fun begins.) It’s time to outfit your sex chamber. Below, we’ve rounded up some essentials you need to build the kinkiest sex room of your dreams.
Furniture
Liberator Cello Sex Couch
This luxe piece of furniture features a moisture-proof, machine-washable cover to help keep everything fresh and clean.
Tabu The Prim
Constructed from memory foam and a custom, washable linen, the Prim elevates the sex pillow to an entirely new level.
Purple Reins Sex Sling
Fully adjustable, “ultra-padded,” and with a nice nod to the late great Prince in the name — what more can you really ask for in a sex swing? Other than a discreet handyman to do the install, of course.
The Cowgirl Premium Remote and App-Controlled Riding Sex Machine
Maybe you and your partner are too advanced for sex pillows and swings. Fine. Ball out on the iconic Cowgirl sex machine that boasts some crazy specs, including 1200 RPM vibrations and a handcrafted saddle with 360° swivel rotation. The machine also includes two interchangeable silicone riding attachments for dual stimulation and can be controlled via remote or smartphone app.
Master Series Obedience Extreme Sex Bench
Can be used as a sex bench or relaxing massage table. Your choice.
Bondage Boutique Bound to Please Under-Mattress Restraints
If you’re strapped for space, this best-selling restraint system is the easiest way to turn your bed into a submissive piece of furniture.
Bedding + Decor
Ettitude Airy CleanBamboo Sateen+ Sheet Set
These premium sheets are available in a tantalizing red silk weave and boast antimicrobial, anti-odor and antifungal properties.
Maude Burn No. 3 Massage Candle
This soy candle has notes of eucalyptus and sandalwood — and also doubles as a sensual massage candle.
Serissa Soft Faux Sheepskin Fur Rug
Add texture to your space with this affordable fluffy rug from Amazon.
Govee RGBIC Floor Lamp Basic
A little mood lighting goes a long way. Govee’s slim, portable floor lamps are ideal for any-sized sex room and are unobtrusive enough not to get in the way of your playtime.
Bondage Accessories
Unbound Tether
The perfect bondage accessory for those new to restraint play. This best-selling tape, also from Unbound, only sticks to itself, so you don’t have to worry about getting your skin or hair caught in a sticky, unsexy situation.
Lelo Maze Wide Cuffs
Give the plastic handcuffs a break and swap them (before they break!) for this elevated pair during your next bondage session.
Fashion Fetish Leather Spreader Bar
This high-end fetish set includes two ankle cuffs, a spreader bar, a bar extender, a connector hook and a convenient storage box.
Bondage Boutique Submissive Special Bondage Kit (5 Piece)
The easiest way to ensure your sex room is sufficiently stocked is with Lovehoney’s five-piece bondage kit.
Toys
Fifty Shades of Grey X We-Vibe Moving As One Couple’s Kit
Save an impressive $85 on this complete set from Lovehoney, which includes a pair of restraints, vanilla-scented massage oil and a top-rated couples sex toy — the We-Vibe Sync Lite — worth $99 alone.
Svakom Emma Neo Mini App Controlled Wand Massager
Remote-controlled devices belong in every sex room. This tiny-but-mighty mini app-controlled wand massager allows you or her to send a variety of powerful vibrations wirelessly.
We-Vibe Ditto+ Rechargeable Remote and App Control Vibrating Butt Plug
This smooth-feeling butt plug includes over 10 vibration modes and can be controlled by the wireless remote or free We-Vibe app.
Lovense Lush 4 App Controlled Vibrating Egg
This luxury, wearable egg vibrator from Lovense is a fun, high-tech plaything designed to be enjoyed from any distance. You or your partner can control the Bluetooth-enabled device via the Lovense app, where you can customize vibration patterns and even sync to music, in-app message and video chat from wherever you are.
Fetish Clothing
Cottelli Red Matte Wet Look Crotchless Bra Set with Restraints
A sex room allows you and your partner to get all dolled up. This fiery red, crotchless bra set with restraints will have her feeling sexy during BDSM play.
DOMINIX Deluxe Leather Cross-Body Harness
Highlight that sexy chest with this leather cross-body harness, which features two sturdy O-rings.
Coquette Darque Red Harness Bra Set with Garters and Restraints
If you’d rather not leave anything to the imagination, Lovehoney has just the set for her.
Oh La La Cheri Black Seductive Vinyl Teddy with Cuffs
Another flattering lingerie option with built-in restraints.
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